Why people change??

Why people change??

This is an antidote of a simple conversation I had with myself while driving which is my favourite stress buster and what more than on highway in monsoons.

It’s something that has troubled all of us and at every turn of our lives.We are some wonderful souls, at least I believe so :)) and so we deserve to meet some wonderful ones through our journey. We all come across people who rightly strike the chords and it becomes as a fairy tale kind of a journey until one day or maybe after several days we start finding that the person has changed. First, the conversation is within our minds and the pity is earned by our beautiful hearts. Then the same is shared with our spouses, girlfriends or boyfriends. Yes, we start becoming a victim of our expectations and sympathetic towards our good deeds…..often telling, ‘I don’t know what went wrong with him or her, but she/he has changed drastically?’

Yes, a lot of permutations and combinations and finally turning into a forgiver and move ahead….but hey!! stop..and look within..No, I am perfectly fine and only the people around me change….

But this time, I had a different and a cruel answer which I found quite a valid one.

Ain’t it that we are responsible for contributing to the acts of people towards us. Of course, we are, fully and completely. The person has an equal sense of understanding, perceptions, mood swings, a soft or a bitter heart as you possess, desire to be loved etc. That’s why one chooses the same person in first place to spend time with. Therefore, I don’t find it a valid saying, that a person has changed. And here I talk about some very close ones as such expectations are difficult to be fulfilled with every random person one meets.


But the final mantra …..or a question of self…..

Have ‘I’ snatched away every reason or stance to be approachable or liked?? Maybe the people don’t change, they WITHDRAW for their peace of mind just as you do sometimes… :))

People don’t want much, don’t put barriers of ego and false mood but ——->’Give them THE REASONS to remain just the way they are’ …..and all the answers will fall in place.. :))


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The Pink Lotus

I am Rohini and having trained as an interior stylist, I have been working in this field for a couple of years. I personally advocate an eclectic style for my home which maintains the flavour of being evergreen, nonetheless I am open to all the styles on board along with the creative beauties that I get to see. Travelling is a part and parcel of my life since childhood and I am glad as it helps me to discover new places, sometimes in a remote corner with hidden artists and some exquisite craftsmanship which I not only try to imbibe in my designs but also try to bring the artist in focus. Design and creativity gives me a sense of constant evolution. Penning my thoughts on travel, life, art, interior design and good workmanship, as and when they appear on my canvas. The Pink Lotus is a blog where I write about home styling, travel encounters and life memories or experiences...Welcome aboard!

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